my self & my mum

So I was contemplating on what to blog about this time round and I started flipping through the text and came upon the 'Symbolic Interaction' theory. I thought that theory made a lot of sense, Mead's idea of the Mind and Self definitely applies to our life.

Take for example my relationship with my mum.

The both of us have always been close - in the 'go shopping, have dinner together, communicate and not fight' kinda way but definitely not best friends like how Rory and Lorelai are in the TV show Gilmore Girls. We talk about general stuff but never about deeper issues. However, she is very supportive of everything I do and never discourages me over anything. Whether it comes to grades or the tattoo that I chose to get last year, she never tells me that she is ashamed of me. I feel quite blessed in that aspect.


Even if I don't score well in my studies, she always tells me that it's alright as long as I've done my best. And that helped greatly in shaping the 'self' aspect of me. She never ever puts any unnecessary pressure on me and because of that, I've learnt to be independent, self-sufficient and motivated in my studies. Because she doesn't push me, I become even more determined to do well and get more A's.

In a way, it's also a self-fulfilling prophecy because of the fact that my mum always believed that I can succeed. Back when I was struggling like hell for my O'Level exams and everyone around me has all given up hope on me, she was the one who believed that I could do well as long as I did my best. Thus, I pushed myself extremely hard so as to show my mum that I fully appreciated how she was always there for me during that tough period and supported me all the way and I made it successfully through the O's. I even managed to get into the course of my choice! Her perspective of me mattered the most to me and because of her encouragement, I've been shaped into the person I am today.

For that, I will always be grateful.

I've seen how other parents can be like and I've also witnessed my friends getting all stressed out and discouraged by their parents' negative comments. I feel extremely blessed to have a mother who is so supportive and I will try my best to be a better daughter towards her.